Wednesday, 27 August 2008

AN IDEAL MAN

I cannot believe it's been almost a whole WEEK!! Wow, I am really slacking! :-( I really need to buckle up!! I have had sooo many topics for discussion running around in my head for the past few days. So many things have happened, I have heard so many things, I have read so many things and I have experiened so many emotions! It's been quite a mini roller-coaster actually.

It makes me wonder then why it is so difficult for me to blog regularly??!! Granted, I have been quite busy in the past few days but who isn't? I believe it's all down to an acute case of procrastination + a tad bit of laziness (yeah yeah I'm quite lazy BUT working on it :-)

I saw this quote a few days back on someone's blog and I absolutely loved it and I leave you with the thought!..

"A woman's heart should be so lost in God that a man has to seek Him in order to find her"

Isn't that just profound? Ever since I saw this quote, I have been ruminating it (hope that was properly phrased, lol) in my head. I would LOVE to be that kind of woman!!! One thing I wouldn't compromise in finding the ideal man is that he must have a PASSION for God. Infact that quality is a top pre-requisite!!

The beauty of such a man is that the fear of God would make him unable to do some certain things. Just like the song that says "when a man loves a woman....", "when a man loves his God!" he would find it difficult to lie/cheat/hit his girl. He would treat her with so much love and respect for the sake of God.. Why wouldn't I want a guy like that?? :-) I have always believed that once a man is right with God, other (good) things would surely follow.

I am not talking about a man who proclaims he is a christian and does everything to negate that fact but a man who truly loves God. There is a big difference!
May God help us in our quest to findng THE ONE!!

Kisses

Tuesday, 19 August 2008

LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX!

Hey!! Howdy!
How have you been? Hope you have been good and not up to anything naughty!

Today I've got time for only a short write-up but hopefully it would be worthwhile.... You see I'm a "busy somebody" lol.

As a single young lady, my mind tends to waunder a LOT! Especially with respect to some particular aspects hehee.. What makes it even worse is that this particular subject is not readily discussed in the part of the world that I come from. Even though we are evolving and people are becoming more comfortable with talking about it, unfortunately erhmm it's not really like that in my house :-) My parents are not just that comfortable... maybe they are shy or probably want to keep me as "innocent" as possible for as long as they can!

The issue os sex is something I believe parents should discuss with their kids!! What do you think?

Sorry I have to cut this short but I have to dash now but I will definately continue the discussion......

Later
God bless xxxx

Thursday, 14 August 2008

I WANNA HAVE YOUR BABIES!!

Mrs A, Mrs B or Mrs F, which one has the nicest ring to it?

No, I'm not getting married but I spoke to someone today and we really got on well so I was just trying out his surname to see if it would fit with mine, lol. Crazy huh? hahaha.. I know, but funny thing is that's what happens most times!!

That's why I love Natasha Bedingfield's song "I wanna have your babies!" lol (I'm listening to it right now). I remember one of my male friends making a comment about the song and saying how ridiculous it was, and how it wasn't true.... I just laughed and thought to myself "if only he knew" lol! The reason why I love that song soo much is that whilst its a bit exaggerated the sentiments are quite on point:-)

I don't know if it's just me and Natasha Bedingfield that act in that way but I remember how I get when I meet someone new and a short while after, I start thinking if he's "THE ONE". I do a very quick but thorough check on his background, physical and spiritual attributes, character etc. I could get all this informatIon from one or two conversations with him (what can I say, your girl gat skills, lol). ... There was this particular guy whom I really liked and who "scored" high points in my personal potential boyfriend (husband :-) test but I guess all my prodding finally got to him and he couldn't take any more of it, he actually jokingly remarked once that he felt like he was taking an examination and once asked "so, did I pass?" Poor boy, if only he knew what was going through my crazy mind! hehehe.... Worst still, little sad me, GET A LIFE!!

One mistake I used to make a lot (I'm a changed person now of course! :-) was that I focused soo much on making sure that every guy I met measured up to a certain standard that I forgot to just relax and enjoy the moment and experience the process of getting to know them like a normal person.. I would check for this and that and in cases where I had found all that out, I would move on to even more stupidly trivial matters and ask "random" leading questions such as "what would you do if your wife (*cough cough*, me) bla bla bla" and await his response to see if he were the one or not...lol. I laugh at it now but it wasn't funny then, I was simply stark raving out of any form of common sense.

Someone once told me that men can "smell" when women want to take things to a further level FAST and there's one way in which guys usually react, they run FAST! Not in your direction, sorry to disappoint you honey but they run AWAY... So we only end up getting the wrong response!

Thank God I have tried and been able to relax a lot now and I've decided to take things easy, key objective being "make friends first and other things would follow". Enjoy the "honeymoon" period of dating and don't ruin it all by being "anxious for nothing". Relax, if he's yours he's yours, if not then his loss!! *wink wink*


God bless xx

P.S Can someone please inform/instruct/educate me on how to upload videos on this page, merci/muchos gracias!! xxx

Until then you can copy and paste (hehe) this link to watch the famous Natasha Bedingfield's song "I WANNA HAVE YOUR BABIES"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i3YLpl2cxuc

Tuesday, 12 August 2008

GOOD FRIENDS

I'm sorry!!

I've been away for soo long, if it helps I have missed you just as much as you have :-)
I have been quite busy and even though I have longed to blog, I haven't had the time to. Oh well, I'm back now, hopefully I would not be gone for that long again (or at least for another long while). So what's happened? Any new thing? Job, school, family, man?? hehehe. Well I am still single :-) Wouldn't it have been nice if it were a new man that's been keeping me from blogging? Sigh! that day would come... not to worry though I would be on hand to give all the gist hehehe...

Yesterday, someone did something for me that touched me so much. One of my friends went out of her way to do something extra-ordinary for me and it left me feeling so grateful for good friends. I would like to dedicate today's post to good friends.

Good friends make you forget that you are single as they fill in that loneliness and emptiness that sometimes creeps up on you. I have mentioned in earlier posts about learning to enjoy the company of your friends and not paying particular attention to having "exclusivity" with your boyfriend/girlfriend. It's important to surround yourselves with people who make you feel good about yourself as well as friends who go out of their way to do things for you. Better still it is important to BE that kind of friend to someone else.

A lot of times we look for "good" friends. Everyone is searching for a worthy friend however forgetting to check if they themslves can be termed as good or worthy friends. When was the last time you did something special for your friend? How often do you go out of your way to help your friend? Are you reliable? Can your friends honestly say that you are trust-worthy and loyal? Do you make your friends smile? Do you compliment them often or just criticise them? When was the last time you noticed something good or different about your friend and mentioned it?

Being a good friend like being a good wife/husband is HARDWORK!!... But very rewarding. Many times we get so comfortable in friendship that we forget to maintain it by occasional kind gestures. A little smile today, a little thoughtful gift (even if inexpensive) goes a long way to show your friends that you appreciate them. Don't wait for special occasion to be nice, do it NOW! Remember when you finally get into a relationship, these are things you would have to do, so why don't you practice now by being a good friend... good friends make good partners in relationships....Its very simple but true.

I would like to challenge you today, do something special for at least one of your friends today. I would try to do the same and let you know about the result tomorrow. (If you like, you can do something special for me, I wouldn't mind hehehe :-)

I hope you have fulfilling relationships and may you be surrounded by good friends!!!xxxxx

P.S Sorry about the seriousness of this post but erhmm what can I say, I am feeling kinda serious meself!

God bless xxx

Friday, 1 August 2008

Let's Get Married

Is it me or does it seem like everyone around me is in such a hurry to be "hooked"??! Either by marriage or just as partners, it doesn't really matter, the main point is that they have someone to call their own... It baffles me sometimes to realise that in the face of feminism, liberation and the sorts, the expectancy rate hasn't fallen, if possible it has risen and continues to do so. Nowadays, a young girl of 12 wants a "serious" relationship. Infact I have seen a few 4/5 year olds introducing their "boyfriend/girlfriend" to their parents (I find this pretty amusing, lol). But really though, what's the rush? Why are people in such a hurry to be coupled up? Are people getting quite bored with themselves? Is it no longer fun to hang out with good friends and family? Where's all the pressure coming from?

I do not speak as a stranger to these pressure to be "hooked", on the contrary I was a bonafide member of the "I want to get married or be in a good/serious relationship" society. I remember growing up as a christian, I didn't believe in random relationships, what we in secondary school used to term as "going out", I just felt it was a good waste of time! Nevertheless I was fanatical about romance. Oh I loved -scratch that - ADORED the act and process of falling in love. I was (and still am) a chocolate, flowers, candlelit dinners, surprise gesture kinda person (hehee) but I was prepared to wait for the right person.

I don't know when the change happened but I started to long after having a great relationship of my own. I tried to look for the "ideal" candidate and believed the rest would follow (according to those darn romance books -sorry to bust your bubbles ladies, there's only an element of truth in those stories, it's not all Cinderella and the Prince in real life! :-) Funny thing was no one was putting any pressure on me, just MOI, ME, MYSELF and I! Yes, my friends had an influence and yes the romance books and movies didn't help either but I made the decision myself to be anxious about it! I planned my love life out - How I wanted to meet Mr Right, what circumstance, how long we would "go out" for and what age I would get married (I am just hilarious!!!) Erhmmm, suffice to say it didn't quite work out that way, lol and then I began to obsess about it ( I am just like that hahaha). Funny thing is if you are looking for something to happen so much, there's a high possibilty that you would make mistakes or rush into stuff or worse, settle for less!

Thank God for His grace, there's nothing like the way God makes you feel to boost your self-esteem, for me that has always been a strong and unfailing anchor. I realise that I cannot settle for just anything because God has BIG plans for me and oh no I'm I ready to jeopardise that because I want to "fall in love". I have decided to stop chasing after what would eventually chase me in God's own time, it's not easy but the end result is more than worth the wait! Instead, I focus more on developing and building relationships with my friends and family, I learn to enjoy my own company, my alone time. I learn to love hanging out with my friends, doing things together (I thank God that I have amazing and wonderful friends!)

It's important to find yourself before committing yourself into a serious relationship, stop trying to look for yourself in someone else, you won't find YOU instead you would get lost even deeper! Whilst you keep yourself busy making friends and having fun, you would not be so focused on finding THE ONE. When he comes, he would do all the chasing and not the other way round >(Don't be fooled, men love the thrill of the chase, what's the point of keeping something that you got sooo easy?). He would wine and dine you..... Perhaps that romantic fantasy would be reality after all *wink wink* lol

God bless! xxxx